Stress at work comes in all forms
of shapes and sizes. And it’s not just the ridiculous amount of workload that
can make you want to pull your nails out; sometimes it’s your coworkers that
could be aggravating your stresses. Dealing with a stressful colleague can be
easy if he or she is generally obnoxious to everyone but if his or her attacks
are directed against you alone then it becomes a challenge. Here are a few tips
to guide into numbing the squabbles with your co-worker.
Be prepared
The best way to deal with a problem
is to anticipate it before it walks into your office. If you work with a
colleague who is quick-tempered or argumentative it is best to prepare
beforehand on how you will react should he direct his or her anger at you. If
you are unprepared, chances are that you will submit to your anger and resolve
to childish behavior which solves nothing. Sometimes it helps to create a
conflict in your mind and work through it like a professional and grown-up.
Don’t fuel the fire
Ever had of the expression ‘don’t
argue with a fool otherwise he will drag you down to his level and beat you
with experience’. The same applies when dealing with a difficult co-worker. You
will be tempted to react instinctively to your rage and retaliate in a hostile
manner, sending out equal low blows. Stooping to their level and responding
with malice only makes them feel more powerful. Instead, portray kindness, they
will get frustrated or too bored to argue with you anymore.
Kill them with kindness
More often than not, people who
are argumentative and defensive in nature have deep-rooted issues that cause
them to resolve to bully others in order to shield their vulnerability. If you
break this barrier by lending a helping hand or listening ear them you might
actually turn a foe into a friend.
Involve a third party
No matter how kind and charming
you are, you can’t win over everyone So in work conflicts it helps to get a
neutral third party involved to help squash the beef. Don’t automatically
assume that the third party will take your side, come with an open mind. You
might be surprised to discover that you are the one causing the conflict.
Remember the goal is to get along so leave your pettiness at the door and be
prepared to compromise and admit when you are in the wrong.
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